What To Do ... What To Do
Every couple disagrees. It's just a fact of life. If you agreed on EVERYTHING then there's a real issue in the relationship. God made people different, and different people have different ways of looking at things and different ways of dealing with stressors and anxiety.
It's no surprise that my husband, Donny, and I don't see eye-to-eye on everything. I am the type of person that lets others know my thoughts and feelings. Donny is the same way, which is part of the reason I fell in love with him and love him more and more every day. The downside is we clash over certain issues, and with both of us being stubborn, well, it just makes things more difficult. We've been debating one issue these past few days and haven't come up with a solution.
Donny works in PR and enjoys being in front of the camera. He loves the spotlight and does very well when attention is focused on him. Me? I'm shy as can be. My face turns every shade of red when I'm put in the spotlight. I tend to be more private and reserved, whereas Donny is okay with things being a little more out in the open.
Donny is promoting a product and has invited a news agency into our home. He's okay with that sort of thing, as he used to be the communications director for DISD before we were together and had news crews in his house on a regular basis. The whole idea of strangers, much less a news crew, being in our private home is unsettling for me. Donny believes it will be just fine, which it may very well be, but I just don't want to have anything to do with a news crew videotaping inside our house.
What to do ... what to do. He feels one way and I feel the other. Several days of discussions have not rendered a verdict. We just flat out disagree. Time has run out as they are supposed to be here tomorrow. We have yet to come up with a workable solution. It's down to he says, "Yes," and I say, "No."
In this case I will be the one who compromises. I still feel disheartened by the whole situation, and don't necessarily agree with it, but part of being mature is accepting that you can't always get your way and learning how to cope when it doesn't go exactly as you'd like. I'll cope by not being here when they arrive and finding something pleasant to do in the meantime.
I love my husband very much. We will be spending a lifetime together. Things will happen that we just absolutely disagree on. We can agree to disagree and work on finding the best solutions. A little compromise will go a long way in the end!
We have many of the same issues in our house too. My hubby is a doer, a nonstop doer. Has to be doing something ALL the time. I'm more of a stay at home person. I need my space and alone time and I'm happy at home. We have many "agree to disagree" situations.
But, we move on because we do love each other and as you said, everyone is different.
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